The Artist Exchange (03/26/2021) #LiveNow

Host:  Nate Couser

Guest:  Harold Phifer (Author, Surviving Chaos)

Topics:

• National Geographic/Aretha Franklin Bio-series
• Bingeworthy Podcast

Artist Exchange Radio Show @BeExposed (08/06/2016)

Artist Exchange Radio Show
 @BeExposed (08/06/2016)

Host: Nate Couser
Co-Host: Ama Brown
Director: Robert Nixon
Producer: Monny

Station: http://www.beexposedradio.com

Artist Exchange Radio Show @BeExposed (08/05/2016)

Artist Exchange Radio Show
@BeExposed (08/05/2016)

Host: Nate Couser
Co-Host: Ama Brown
Director: Jabril Morris
Producer: Monny

Station: http://www.beexposedradio.com

No room for error

It's been a while since I posted, that's because of the new job. The constant worry that I am not good enough is at an all time high and I have always struggled with a fear that the effort I put into anything I do is just mediocre at best. It's reflected a lot in the poems I never let anyone read.  I have never had this much demand of me on any job.  As a member of the sales team, our job is huge and if we don't do our job no one comes to the hotel to spend money.  In turn, no money for bills and payroll.  

My specific job is difficult for a few reasons; I am new, in the previous job I didn't have as nearly as much work to do, I have to make 75 calls for business a week, and the hotel is very social events heavy.  That is not my market, as the corporate sales person my thought process and speech is very cut and dry.  I have felt a void of creativity and being bogged down by a lack of confidence, I am notorious for saying there is nothing I can't do.  I meet as many challenges head on as I can and this one is no different but my efforts means more and my family depends on my efforts.

So, hopefully I will be right back with you next week, perhaps this will help me keep the stress down.

#Breastfeeding we need it. #Video

This week I saw the Wendy Williams/Alyssa Milano breastfeeding in public video. You know the one where a woman tries to push her oppressed views of her body onto another woman.

This is how you shut down breastfeeding shamers. Read more about Alyssa Milano's activism here: http://attn.link/1Ru58r4Like ATTN: on Facebook.
Posted by ATTN: on Wednesday, January 6, 2016

FIRST THING'S FIRST

If you have a problem with public breastfeeding you must first understand where your problem is coming from, it's planted!  It's a marketing ploy to try to force people to buy things they don't need.  A way to distract you from what's important.  You have NO real need for a bottle, a nipple, a bottle warmer, a steamer to sterilize all the bottle parts, nor do you need that God awful pump. 

WHAT ABOUT SPENDING TIME WITH YOUR CHILD?

There was a time in the world were a woman could make money nursing a child until it was of age to be waned. A Wet Nurse was a career path. You as a parent knew that your child was receiving a complete nutritious meal.  A meal that nature evolved specifically for babies.

Well, as there was a need for emergency food for babies "formula" was invented.  To help families keep babies alive.  Now this "formula" had 0 nutritional value to it. And the companies that produced it at the time would say so.  Fast forward to today, "Formula" whose ingredients are protected by trade secret laws still have no real/naturally made nutrition. It has vitamin C in it the same way that Wendy's serves all natural lemonade. Some guy in a lab fuses together the right combination of molecules that you find in a tree grown lemon and says, "There! I made lemon flavor" but, we all know the difference when we taste it.

Now, I know a lot of parents choose to feed their kids the same things they put in their own mouths. If every person in America agrees that we have a food problem and everyone in America agrees that the food industry at large need much more oversight.  Then, why are willing to believe that something built in a lab is as good as or better than what a woman produces from her own body?  A woman's body in America is a thing for sex.  We are sold formula for babies so that women remember that their bodies are for sex. We have waist trainers and post pregnancy diets and every commercial is geared toward encouraging women to exercise which includes at least one mom with a walker/baby monitor.  Now, I have no problem with jumping back on the bad wagon.  I know the struggle all to well.  I understand what it is to desire your before-pregnancy body.  The reality, albeit sad, hard, or life altering is that happens to very few women.  We are not given permission to just be moms for while.  Part of that culture is rooted in breast being "fun bags" and NOT baby food. That mentally is what will lead someone to think its OK to scream at a woman with a child in her arms.  I as a WELL-endowed woman understand the struggle of my body being a thing for sex and my body as a place for reproduction.

I am reminded of a story I read about the colonization of Africa.  In it there comes a time when the narrators grandmother tells about how the women of the village would do the laundry in the buff because the sacred river was respected in that way. It was the arrival of the new Christian missionaries that the idea of bare breast being inappropriate was introduced.

It is that, plus the idea that you don't even have to feed your baby from your own breast. You can buy that powder stuff and get back to work, clean these dishes, cook this food, manage these people, learn this dance, and hold still for one more shot.  All these things are much more important.  How you contribute to the gaining of a dollar is much more important than you being a mom and how you feel about it.  If you are given 90 days to adjust to a new job with benefits, why would you not get 90 days to adjust to a new job with no vacation and no compensation?